New Year’s REVolutions and a giveaway.

(Giveaway closed, congrats to Pauline (paulinejon) on winning! Please email me at tymberdalton AT gmail DOT com with Book Winner in the subject line, with your full name and snail-mail address, so I can get this out to you. Thanks!)

Instead of making resolutions this year that I probably might not keep, I want to try something a little different. I want to try making a revolution, to make at least one difference in my life in a meaningful way.

I think this coming new year, I want my personal revolution to be to try to let go of fear. People who don’t know me very well might think I’m anything but a fearful person, but in many ways, I am. Fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of grief (that’s a huge one for me, actually). As an introvert, I have a fear of crowds, fear of  interaction with people I don’t know in social settings. (Ironically, I’m fine teaching, presenting, doing karaoke sober, acting in community theatre, etc.)

In 2014, I want to make a conscious effort to let go of fear.

s-td-thedenimdom1What is your revolution for 2014? Go ahead and post it in the comments. Everyone who posts their revolution for 2014 in the comments will be entered to win an autographed print copy of my book The Denim Dom (Suncoast Society) as well as some swag. I will pick a random winner on Thursday, Jan. 2, 2014 using random.org’s number generator. Make sure you don’t comment as “anonymous,” at least put your name/username in the comment if nothing else so I have a way of announcing the winner.

Teh Legalz: Must be at least 18 (or of adult age in your country of residence), open world-wide (except where giveaways are prohibited), and I will post the winner here on my website.

Good luck, and let’s hear your REVolution for the new year.

65 Responses to New Year’s REVolutions and a giveaway.

  1. I have been a non-smoker since 11/18/13. I wish this to continue for the rest of my life. It’s a very hard battle, I’ve been a smoker for over 40 years.

  2. I have gone up and down with my weight. I plan on fighting the battle of the bulge!

  3. I NEVER would’ve guessed you were a fearful person, Tymber. Guarded, yes, but never fearful. In fact, I have always admired your ability to vocalize thoughts many of us have, but are afraid to share.

    My revolution for 2014 is to stand up for and advocate for myself. I don’t have a problem speaking out for (and standing up for) others, but when it comes to my hopes, dreams and goals, I tend to keep my feelings private. Often times, it is because I don’t want “advice,” but mostly, it’s because I don’t want to be judged. I have reached an age, where I no longer value other people’s opinions over my own. It only took me 46 years to get here.

    Happy New Year!

  4. I have a couple of resolutions for the new year. I’ll have my third (and LAST) baby in June and I want to lose the baby weight this time. I gained weight after I had my second but due to her health issues I was never able to work it off. This time I want to put some time aside and work on getting healthy and lose the weight.

    I also want to work on my writing and maybe actually have the guts to turn something in. It isn’t the writing that gets me nervous but submitting my work gives me hives haha. My goal is to turn something in by next December (I’m giving myself a year because it’ll be hectic with 3 kids :) )

  5. As I turn 40 this year, I will be taking my weight loss efforts more seriously. I have been overweight since I have been a little kid. Teased and bullied most of my life and I am tired of it. I want, no, I need to lose weight this year! 2014 is my year for a new me!

  6. My resolution is to be kinder to myself and to try to worry less because it does absolutely no good in the long run. Being healthy has been an ongoing goal for me as well. I don’t buy into the diet thing as much as just making the right choices and eating the right food with a balance of exercise.

    Hope you make your goals for the 2014 year. Much success, love and happiness all the way around to you!

  7. I want to have more family time. Life is too short to let drama get between family. So I want NO DRAMA and lots of love.

  8. For me, it’s going back to the gym. I really need to work on getting myself healthy.

  9. I want to get rid of this weight and be a bit more outgoing. I’m going to a couple conventions this year with out hubs. I guess just getting out more and not being such a homebody. Oh and not stressing about everything all the time.

  10. Interesting that you mention introversion, Tymber. I was just talking with another author this morning about how being an introvert can make author networking seem so difficult. My “resolution” isn’t a new thing, but to keep doing it- I spend a good deal of time sharing things for other authors- blog posts, buy links etc. I also spend time in writing and posting reviews. I want to make sure that- no matter what personal catastrophes I might have- that I continue this “sharing” behavior.

  11. My New Year’s REVolution for 2014…
    To STOP looking for the bad or constantly waiting for “the other shoe to drop”.
    Rather I will try harder to remind myself to be in the moment and enjoy all of the amazingly wonderful things happening all the time!
    Life doesn’t always have an equal & opposite reaction, sometimes good begets good & looking for the negative will make me miss the positive.
    Oh & lose 40 pounds! :D

  12. I feel like I need to be more aware of the things say. Work on my filter a bit.

  13. I want to finally get my issues with food under control. I’m an emotional eater. I eat when I get stressed and I need to break that habit.

    I’m also an introvert and I’ve worked very hard to be more outgoing and open, but I will always prefer small groups to large crowds even though I have had to get used to speaking in front of large audiences.

  14. Love the way you look at this. My revolution will be to be sure to do things that make me happy and healthy. I tend to lose myself and forget to do the things that keep me mentally and physically well. I always feel better when my house is straighten up. Not clean because I know I will always have clutter. To take my vitamins and to take time out for myself.

  15. my new years resolution is to lose weight and improve myself. start fresh. and try not to make the same mistakes i made in the past.

  16. My 2014 REVolution is to be more patient. I get impatient & annoyed if others are taking too long because they’re not prepared. I want to be able to relax some more.

    Best of luck with everyone’s REVoultions! Wish you all the best in 2014!

  17. My 2014 Revolution is also to let go of my fear – I’m not comfortable in groups even with people I know and forget about speaking up in front of people – I usually whisper my idea to whoever is next to me and let them get credit for it. So I’m going to do my best to let go of my fear also.

    My other Revolution is to go back to eating healthy again – managed to loose 70lbs before slipping the past few months – luckily didn’t gain any back but going to get back to my healthy life style and loose those last few stubborn pounds that I need to.

  18. My 2014 revolution is to overcome the fear of rejection and finally submit one of my stories and/or self-publish. Losing weight is an on-going campaign. I diligently watch what I eat with the hope of losing a few more pounds, but it is still a fight. That said, I will persevere in spite of what the scale says.
    cam231948@gmail.com

  19. My 2014 Revolution is to try to get out and meet new people. I really want to go to a munch but I’ve been to nervous to attend one.

  20. My Revolution for 2014 would be to banish my Inertia so I can get on with my movement program to overcome my fibro pain. Ten minutes a day will do it so why is it so hard to JUST DO IT!!!

  21. My Revolution is to stop buying stuff I don’t need just because it’s on sale or I want it. I have enough stuff! I want to shed all the things that are holding me back from becoming my best self! Wishing everyone success in 2014!

  22. Mine is to try and live for the moments that count

  23. Quit smoking & lose weight. I know they’re cliche, but they are what I need to do the most. :)

  24. Tymber, I am with you on the leaving fear behind. I know that it is my inner introvert, but I also know that I need to move forward and stop hiding my light in the world.

  25. Well, to lose weight is of course what I want and need to do, but that’s “always” a New Year’s resolution, right? There are lots of things that I’m scared of. CHANGE is the main one. I want to overcome this fear and embrace change. Thanks for the giveaway, Tymber!

  26. Since I turned 60 a year ago I’ve felt like a new woman so my REVolution is to continue being upbeat and taking life by the horns. Of course I also want to lose the weight I’ve surrepticioualy put on so gym and walking here I come. I should also stop spending a small fortune on books but with authors like you around that’s something which is not going to happen. Happy New Year to you and good luck with your REVolutions

  27. I plan on retiring.

  28. My revolution would be to stay in the moment, live with intent and enjoy whatever is going on… to continue to persevere in spite of the pain… I too am an introvert and really do not enjoy being the centre/focus of attention anywhere. However if I need to share on my strengths I, too, am fine. I want to allow my new area of creativity to flourish!

    other than that, Happy New Year to you all… the clock turned over about 45 minutes ago for us so it is already 2014… I hope for everyone that 2014 is all that you want it to be!

  29. Katy Beth McKee

    My Revolutions is to continue the path I started last year. There are been lots of changes and I’m still working at getting everything flowing smoothly around here. My digital scrapbooking was really my way to relax and have creative expression and between having to go to work, school for me, and homeschool my youngest two I’ve sort of let time get away and haven’t really done anything in months. So My REVolution is to develop a practical and workable schedule that makes sure that there is time for me.

  30. My revolution is to get off my lazy, procrastinating butt and find a job.

  31. For 2014 I wan to to communicate better with my hubby. We have been married for 11 years and together since late 1996 and we didn’t really start talking until this year. Since I was introduced to BDSM, I have learned that communication is important in any relationship. I also would like to shed my shyness as well but that will be a little harder to do but I am working on it. I look to having healthy and happy relationships this year. I also would love to find a better job.

  32. I am an introvert as well. Hate being in the middle of a big crowd or the center of attention. I plan on working on this in 2014.

  33. Kenna Nauenburg

    This year, my main goal is to be healthier. I always say that I want to lose weight, but then I get disappointed, give up, and gain more. So…more fresh fruit and veggies. More exercise. More sunshine and fresh air.

    Also, I’d LOVE to be able to become more organized and be able to rid my house of unnecessary clutter (especially my desk so that I can finish that book that’s sitting there collecting dust).

  34. To stop letting the opinions of others hold me back from doing and experiencing new things. Sometimes, it is not their vocalized opinion it is what I believe their opinion and thoughts will be. This new year I want to stop letting these thoughts and opinions control how I experience my life. :-)

  35. I would like to eat healthier. My motivation is seriously lacking. One bad day and I give up and reach for the chocolate. That is going to change this year. I am going to start off slowly and just do it one day at a time.

  36. Congrats to JoEllen! It’s been since September ’13 for me, and I’ll admit the e-cigarettes have made it possible this time. Over the past 60 years, I’ve quit hundreds of times! Sometimes even for close to 24 hours. Hang in there, investigate the ecigs. There’s nothing wrong with a crutch when you’ve got a broken leg.

    Tymber, love ya, but remember that sometimes fear is a healthy response. Figuring out when is the trick. I can so identify with what you say, though. I can face an auditorium filled with students OK, but four people at a party? No way.

    My resolution is the same as it’s been for some years now. I resolve to make no resolutions.

    Pogonip

  37. This year I need o find a way to empower myself. Medically, I need to lose weight, but until I feel “safe” being thin again, it will never happen. I was raped when I weighed 98 pounds, & agave steadily gained weight over the years (I need to IDEALLY lose 60 pounds) but my weight has become like a security blanket (“nobody would want to rape a fat person”..I know it’s not logical, but….). So, I plan to EMPOWER myself by leaning self defense and getting stronger physically. Wish me luck!

    Happy New year to all. Tymber, fear is hard to conquer. Last year I conquered my fear of heights by learning to rappel off a climbing tower. The first few minutes sucked! But guess what? I LOVED it!

  38. vicky strevens

    I haven’t really made a resolution as such,just going to try to read more (which shouldn’t be hard ;) )

  39. Stacy Wilson

    Revolution…..not sure I have one. If anything, I’d say it is to let go of insecurities. Most people see me as confident and assured. I’m actually so far from it. Don’t have much self confidence at all. Need to work on that.
    Stacy

  40. I have a couple of things I want to work on. Of course the all time favorite of loosing weight & getting healthier. But I also want to work on letting go of my shyness. I talk to people I don’t know online all the time however if I am in a a face to face setting with people I don’t know I’m the one standing in the corner by myself.

  41. I dont make resolution just because I fail at them. I love your idea Tymber of a revolution though! For me this year is going to be about letting go of things that haunt me and I beat myself up over. Past hurts, bad memories, past failures, and guilt’s. Over the years of being with my Dom/hubs I’ve gotten past so much the hugest hurtle for me was nightmares about my ex. I’ve decided this year I’m going to really let go of those things that I continue to let eat at me, and try destroy me but yet, I continue to hang onto. Not anymore… I’m done and this year I’m going to be successful at banishing the last of what has a hold on me.

  42. Lisa Phillips

    I am going to continue to seize the day! But I have resolved to write book reviews on the books I read to support my favorite authors. This will be tough for me because I find it difficult to express myself. Thanks for the giveaway, Tymber!

  43. Christina Siciliano

    Well let’s see to loose some weight and take more me time reading. Sounds good to me.

  44. Kellee russom

    This year I want to be a doer. This past year I read over 400 books and worked a full time job. This year I want to read less. Yes, I know, crazy, huh? I want to get out and experience life instead of just reading about it. I want to let go of feelings of inferiority, and get in the middle of things. Be comfortable in my skin. Even if that means therapy.

  45. My Revolution is to try to live healthier: eat fewer sweets, try to eat more fresh fruits and veggies and to be more active in going to my water aerobics class.

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  47. Kelli j Lipe

    I will not be “slave to the grind.” Too many times I let opportunities pass me by because I feel obligated by other things in life. No longer will I harbor any hate or regret for things that are beyond my control. I will regain my inner strength and become a force with which to be reckoned. With that strength comes confidence, happiness, and the wisdom that only a woman can possess! Wish me luck x

  48. Helen Simmonds

    Ok my revolutions are never going to work they never do but hey i always make them just in case i have a smidgen of hope of actually pulling them off. So my first is to be more quiet, this is going to be exceptionally hard for me cos i like to be loud i like to have my say and i basically cant keep it zipped. This is something i need to work on and maybe i need to get Sir’s help hmmm maybe not cos i would constantly have a sore behind hehehe oh but then again thats a bonus ‘shouts loudly ohhhh Sir i need your help with something’ ;)

  49. Try to live life to the fullest without worrying about other people’s opinions. Enjoy life more with my son and family. Stop the worrying about work and get back to what really matters.

  50. This year, I am going to finally quit smoking- after 21 years.

  51. Danielle Jerke

    This year i’ll try to worry less and live more, i think it’s pass my time to let go and stop of been so shy, so reserved, so guarded.

  52. Chris Walker

    Working on finances, getting healthier and finishing home improvement projects so we can hopefully put the house on the market in another year.
    Chris NoOne

  53. Monique Bloch

    This last year has been one of serious change…divorce, new job, move to a new home. My revolution is to live authentically and teach my son to do the same, learn to communicate with more clarity, focus on my needs and not my wants, and try to remember that not dealing with something just means I WILL have to deal with it later.

  54. I will continue on my journey of better health, clear my life out of people that are not true. Have a clean sweep of things I don’t need. Get back to basics! Continue to read more and enjoy time with my family.

  55. I had given up Resolutions for the last few years… But for you, lady… ;). This tear, I resolve to be more realistic in my expectations of others…and I resolve to walk at least one mile every other day, in my goal towards completing a 5k by the end of this year. :D

  56. Ignore the comment above. I resolve 2 things.
    1. Stop letting my adult daughter take advantage of me.
    2. Do more to get my hubby to understand bdsm and my interest I’m it.

  57. I haven’t finished pulling together my thoughts yet for 2014 because I need to zero in on the changes that are the most important, but one of the big ones for me will be speaking up for myself and putting myself first more often.

  58. I realized toward the end of last year that I need to let go of doubt. Doubting myself and doubting the motives of others. I guess to put it in a positive perspective I need to trust more, so that’s my plan for 2014.

  59. For 2014 I plan to continue to push forward in hopes for a more positive year. To much negativity in 2013 (I’m glad it’s over)
    After one tough year with money and illnesses I have a whole new outlook on what it really is to have to go without or sacrifice one need for another. I hope other parents and families never have to go through what my husband and I have endured this past year. So I have already signed up to do my volunteer work and I am heading up 3 new donation services for our community. :) I feel that great positive energy working already. COME ON 2014 I AM READY FOR YOU!!

  60. Helena Stone

    My personal revolution will be to take the story I wrote during NaNoWriMo and try to turn it into something people might want to read. I’ll have to overcome one or two (thousand) insecurities, but I’ll find a way of doing it. And, while I’m keeping my fingers busy, I’ll be giving up smoking as well. I may end up being impossible to live with, but if I succeed in both it will be well worth it. Good luck with your revolution. Being rather introverted myself I completely get where you’re coming from. I’m just not sure I want to be out there more than I am at the moment, or I’d join you.

  61. Thank you so much for the chance and for the person who helped me find this ♥. My new years resolution this year is going to be to put myself first in some of my friendships. I always put myself last and as a result I have friends that are not the best, and I’ve lost me in a way. So I guess my resolution this year is to find better friends, or take a stand in my friendships so that people stop running over me.

  62. MsAuthoritarian

    1. Continue my sunrise on the beach ritual every opportunity I have.
    2. Find the right job for me.
    3. Do a blog
    4. Continue to work on being a better person daily.
    5. Give back to others in any way I can.
    Hope you have an amazing 2014!

  63. I usually don’t make any but this year I think I have to try a little hard and I have a very big incentive at getting fit (or losing a little bit of weight), my baby sister got engaged on Christmas day and we will be having a wedding something this year. I’ll see how I do :)

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  64. Debbie Raddatz

    I don’t usually do this but this year I plan to try really hard to quit smoking…. Cross your fingers for me!!