My BDSM 101 tutorial for writers (and for those curious about the lifestyle) is not only revised and expanded in this second edition…it’s now available in print for the first time! … Read More
#consentmatters – From the case files… NO means NO.
The #MeToo movement has drastically raised awareness of consent and consent violations outside the world of BDSM. It’s ridiculously easy for people to get backed into even minor consent violations outside of a BDSM context where some outsiders might respond by saying, “Oh, just get fucking over it, that’s nothing. You weren’t ‘hurt.’ No harm, … Read More
Jane Austin’s Fight Club, and free BDSM 101 tutorial.
I shouldn’t talk about how much I love Fight Club (first and second rules) but THIS crossed my feed today and had me laughing my ass off. Totally work safe. Enjoy!! 🙂 (Click here if the video doesn’t show up for you.) Also, I decided to put my non-fiction BDSM tutorial, Whip Me, Beat Me, … Read More
#BDSM101 Thought for the Day: “Experts”
Always remember that unless someone is talking about a SPECIFIC, specialized topic (for example, fire cupping, needle play, suspension, etc.) if a person claims they are an “expert” in BDSM, they’re full of shit. BDSM is such a widely diverse topic that it literally is the equivalent of a doctor claiming they are an “expert” … Read More