“Why do you HAVE to keep writing about Russ? We get it, he died, but you’re poly and you have a spouse, so it’s not like you’re alone. You’re young. Move the fuck on.” No, I haven’t heard that exact
On 18 weeks, waves, and drowning.
Breaths and Heartbeats
Volunteering as management for a BDSM club is sometimes a blessing and a curse…
#consentmatters – From the case files… NO means NO.
The #MeToo movement has drastically raised awareness of consent and consent violations outside the world of BDSM. It’s ridiculously easy for people to get backed into even minor consent violations outside of a BDSM context where some outsiders might respond
Jane Austin’s Fight Club, and free BDSM 101 tutorial.
I shouldn’t talk about how much I love Fight Club (first and second rules) but THIS crossed my feed today and had me laughing my ass off. Totally work safe. Enjoy!! 🙂 (Click here if the video doesn’t show up
#BDSM – There is no “right” way, much less a “one” way.
I teach a monthly Lifestyle 101 class at the local BDSM club I volunteer at. One of the first things I talk about is that, aside from safety issues, as long as everyone is a human, consenting adult (over the
#BDSM101 Thought for the Day: “Experts”
Always remember that unless someone is talking about a SPECIFIC, specialized topic (for example, fire cupping, needle play, suspension, etc.) if a person claims they are an “expert” in BDSM, they’re full of shit. BDSM is such a widely diverse
Quick Note: Why I’m not posting certain documents in the Charles Michael Segaloff (Michael Makai) case.
There has been a valid point brought up that I want to make sure I clarify, since I cannot remember all the places I have clarified it. (Fibrofog is a bitch, so…blog post.) And I’m tired of repeating myself, so,
Even Hitler had a dog…
Concerning the Charles Michael Segaloff / Michael Makai arrest. I’d like to address a point the troll on my original post brought up. To clarify for the idiots who didn’t get it from context, I’m sure there are PLENTY of very nice people in
Consent 101 #BDSM #ConsentMatters
In light of the Michael Makai / Charles Michael Segaloff arrest, I’m going to reiterate the basics of consent when it comes to BDSM. This really is not a difficult topic to grok for most people, but apparently some self-appointed BDSM
US legal system primer: how someone is labelled a “registered sex offender.”
I’m seeing an appalling number of people who are either just woefully ignorant of how our justice system works, or are deliberately being willfully stupid, when it comes to this case of Michael Makai / Charles Michael Segaloff. You cannot just
Why you trust your gut: #BDSM and predators in the lifestyle. (Charles Michael Segaloff / Michael Makai arrest)
Information about sexual predator and registered sex offender Charles Michael Segaloff, aka self-proclaimed BDSM “expert” and author Michael Makai, aka Michael McKay, aka Michael Sage
Dear Vanillas: Fifty Shades of Grey does not represent ME.
Dear Vanillas who are about to go see Fifty Shades of Grey, the movie (or who are refusing to go see the movie because they think it’s about abuse), I am a real-life practitioner of BDSM. I am a switch
BDSM: Switches and debunking the WTW bullshit.
Apparently the WTWs (Won Twue Wayers) are at it again. (Or, maybe that’s at it still.) I got word there’s a couple of self-appointed BDSM “experts” holding court and giving out a lot of bullshit information, such as female Dominants/Dommes
Grimmy the bondage model.
If you haven’t read my book Crafty Bastards yet, these pictures won’t make any sense to you. If you have…well, apologies if you were drinking something while reading and you have now laughed/spewed all over your computer. Grimmy is the
Am I too ___ for BDSM?
tl;dr answer: No.* * As long as the ___ question isn’t “young.” You must be at least 18 years old, or whatever the age of legal adulthood is in your place of residence. I get this question at least once a