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“Why do you HAVE to keep writing about Russ? We get it, he died, but you’re poly and you have a spouse, so it’s not like you’re alone. You’re young. Move the fuck on.” No, I haven’t heard that exact combination of words from any one person but the various versions of that, condensed together, … Read More
Volunteering as management for a BDSM club is sometimes a blessing and a curse… … Read More
The #MeToo movement has drastically raised awareness of consent and consent violations outside the world of BDSM. It’s ridiculously easy for people to get backed into even minor consent violations outside of a BDSM context where some outsiders might respond by saying, “Oh, just get fucking over it, that’s nothing. You weren’t ‘hurt.’ No harm, … Read More
I shouldn’t talk about how much I love Fight Club (first and second rules) but THIS crossed my feed today and had me laughing my ass off. Totally work safe. Enjoy!! 🙂 (Click here if the video doesn’t show up for you.) Also, I decided to put my non-fiction BDSM tutorial, Whip Me, Beat Me, … Read More
I teach a monthly Lifestyle 101 class at the local BDSM club I volunteer at. One of the first things I talk about is that, aside from safety issues, as long as everyone is a human, consenting adult (over the age of 18), is having fun or getting what they need from the play/dynamic, and … Read More
Always remember that unless someone is talking about a SPECIFIC, specialized topic (for example, fire cupping, needle play, suspension, etc.) if a person claims they are an “expert” in BDSM, they’re full of shit. BDSM is such a widely diverse topic that it literally is the equivalent of a doctor claiming they are an “expert” … Read More
There has been a valid point brought up that I want to make sure I clarify, since I cannot remember all the places I have clarified it. (Fibrofog is a bitch, so…blog post.) And I’m tired of repeating myself, so, huzzah, blog post. In the Charles Michael Segaloff (Michael Makai) arrest and federal case, I’m … Read More
Concerning the Charles Michael Segaloff / Michael Makai arrest. I’d like to address a point the troll on my original post brought up. To clarify for the idiots who didn’t get it from context, I’m sure there are PLENTY of very nice people in that BDSM Without the BS Facebook group who are appalled at Segaloff’s alleged actions involving … Read More
In light of the Michael Makai / Charles Michael Segaloff arrest, I’m going to reiterate the basics of consent when it comes to BDSM. This really is not a difficult topic to grok for most people, but apparently some self-appointed BDSM “gurus” like Mr. Makai/Segaloff and others need a reminder. For starters, watch this: Consent is … Read More
I’m seeing an appalling number of people who are either just woefully ignorant of how our justice system works, or are deliberately being willfully stupid, when it comes to this case of Michael Makai / Charles Michael Segaloff. You cannot just get slapped with a “sex offender” label. To become a registered sex offender, you must … Read More
Information about sexual predator and registered sex offender Charles Michael Segaloff, aka self-proclaimed BDSM “expert” and author Michael Makai, aka Michael McKay, aka Michael Sage … Read More
Dear Vanillas who are about to go see Fifty Shades of Grey, the movie (or who are refusing to go see the movie because they think it’s about abuse), I am a real-life practitioner of BDSM. I am a switch and submit only to my Sir, although I identify as a Dominant in all other … Read More
Apparently the WTWs (Won Twue Wayers) are at it again. (Or, maybe that’s at it still.) I got word there’s a couple of self-appointed BDSM “experts” holding court and giving out a lot of bullshit information, such as female Dominants/Dommes like to humiliate men (not true for most of the ones I personally know, including … Read More
If you haven’t read my book Crafty Bastards yet, these pictures won’t make any sense to you. If you have…well, apologies if you were drinking something while reading and you have now laughed/spewed all over your computer. Grimmy is the inspiration for Baxter, Cali’s cat in that book. No pussies were harmed in the taking … Read More
tl;dr answer: No.* * As long as the ___ question isn’t “young.” You must be at least 18 years old, or whatever the age of legal adulthood is in your place of residence. I get this question at least once a week from readers who’ve discovered my Suncoast Series books and want to learn more about … Read More